Nobody likes being lied to. We feel betrayed when we place our trust in another’s hands only to have them break it. After a while, you’ll start to mistrust even the most sincere of people.
Check out the telltale signs of lying below and rest easy knowing it will be much harder for anyone to pull the wool over your eyes.
Eye contact is a double-edged sword in the world of lies. Usually, when a person lies — especially to someone they care about — they cannot look their victim in the eye. Then on the other side, we have a special type of liar. The one who thinks to stare at you like you’re a hot fudge sundae on a ninety-degree day will make you magically believe them.
Which Hand do They Write With?
The next time you believe someone is pulling your chain, find out if they are a lefty or a righty. According to professional interrogators — who have spent their lives perfecting the ability to detect when someone is lying — which hand a person writes with makes a big difference in how they act when they lie
When someone is being asked a question they don’t want to answer truthfully, they will often repeat the question back first. This could be a diversion but it’s more likely they are doing it to buy time to think of a good lie.
It’s not unusual for someone to repeat a question when they need to clarify if they heard it correctly. This is especially true in high-pressure situations. So while this is a good thing to watch for when you suspect somebody of lying, it does not always mean someone is a liar.
Most of us get suspicious when someone embellishes their story with details, but that’s exactly what investigators want to see. According to Geiselman, people who keep their answers short and simple have something to hide.
This is likely our instinct for self-preservation kicking in. When we tell a big, elaborate lie, there are more details to remember or create. Keeping it short makes it much easier to avoid being tripped up in the future.
Please remember that this is assuming someone is completely fabricating a story to cover the truth. In some cases — like fishing stories — people will add details to the truth, but the lies are in those details.
Lying is much like walking through a field of land mines. You must choose your steps wisely to avoid being blown up. One wrong move and … bang.
You don’t run onto the field. You walk slowly. Once you have a good idea what direction you want to go, you pick up the pace. As soon as you see the end is near, and think you are safe, you might even run a little. The same can be said for lying.
When you first walk into the lie, you tread with caution. You might talk slowly while choosing your words cautiously. Once you have a clear idea what direction you want your lie to go, you may start to speak a bit faster. As soon as you think the end is near and your lie has been believed, you run.
“Truthful people will not dramatically alter their speech rate within a single sentence.” – Geiselman
If someone is lying, they may initially speak slowly and precisely. This is likely when they are trying to get their story straight in their mind. Once they have their thoughts in order, their story will come out much faster. When someone has nothing to hide, they don’t feel the need to watch what they say and so their rate of speech remains level.
Be careful not to confuse excitement — which can also cause someone to talk with more enthusiasm — with lying.
When someone lies they will often refer to people vaguely rather than specifically. Instead of saying, “Mr. Green did it in the study,” they would instead say, “he did it in the study.”
This could be because they don’t want to implicate someone innocent in their lie, but it’s more likely they do not want to give names of people who could be asked to corroborate the story.
If the person you’re talking to avoids saying “I,” you probably have a liar in your midst. Instead of saying, “I didn’t hit Mrs. Scarlette with a hammer,” they might instead say, “no one here would ever do that do her.”
It’s not an exact science, but something to watch for when trying to uncover a lie.